Understanding Your Baby's Wriggly Behaviour During Feeding: A Parents Guide by IBCLC Shami Shafi

Most parents have experienced a wriggly baby at some point but when babies become unsettled or fussy during feed times on a regular basis, this can pose difficulties that threaten the joy of feeding your baby. Understanding this behaviour is key to ensuring a positive feeding experience for both you and your baby. In this guide, we will explore the potential reasons behind your baby's restlessness and share practical tips to help you navigate feeding. Let's dive in!

The Hunger Games: Recognising Feeding Cues

Babies are born with natural signals to indicate hunger. Look for signs like rooting (turning their head and opening their mouth), smacking their lips, licking their tongue or becoming more alert. Responding promptly to these cues is crucial. Delaying your response can lead to heightened frustration or anxiety; studies show that babies who are fed promptly when they exhibit hunger cues are more likely to have a positive feeding experience. No one likes to be "hangry"!!

Comfort and Positioning

Wriggling can often stem from discomfort during feeding. Babies have their preferences for how they are held, and an improper latch or poor positioning can lead to fussiness. Head turning preference or tension/pain from delivery can also impact your baby's comfort levels too.

To enhance comfort during feeding:

• Choose a relaxed seating position for yourself. A comfortable parent is more likely to create a soothing environment for the baby

• Experiment with different feeding positions such as the cradle hold, football hold, or the side-lying position

• High side lying position may be helpful for some bottle fed babies and is worth exploring if your baby is unhappy in the cradle hold

  
  

Creating a nurturing and comfortable atmosphere is essential for successful feeding.

Milk flow

The flow of milk plays an important role in comfort levels for babies whether they are bottle feeding or breastfeeding. Most babies prefer a fast flow however, navigating this flow can be challenging for lots of reasons. If your baby is finding it hard to control the flow of milk or the flow is too fast, they may wriggle or pull away from the breast or bottle. If the flow is too slow, they may again become unsettled and upset during feeds.

• Always start with slow flow teats and don't increase unless your baby is ready

• If your baby is coughing, spluttering or breath holding during feeds...flow is too fast

• If your baby is taking a long time to feed and not gaining weigh as expected, the flow may be too slow

Having a feeding specialist observe a feed can help you to differentiate whether the flow is too fast/slow for your baby and if this is causing an issue as well as how to deal with this.

Distractions Abound

As babies grow, they become more aware of their surroundings, which can lead to distractions during feeding. It's common for them to turn their heads or wiggle in response to noises or movements around them.

To foster a calm feeding environment:

• Select a quiet space, away from noise or visual distractions where possible to reduce the risk of distractions

• Consider using a soft blanket or shawl to create a cozy atmosphere that keeps your baby's focus on feeding

  
  

Reflux and Discomfort

Wriggling may also indicate physical discomfort, such as acid reflux. Symptoms of reflux to watch for include:

• Arching their back during feedings

• Frequent spitting up or seeming uncomfortable

• Increased irritability after feeding

  
  

If you notice these signs, observe your baby closely, seek feeding support and consult with your GP. Discomfort as a result of excess wind can also exacerbate reflux and cause babies to become unsettled during feeds.

Timing and Overstimulation

The timing of feedings plays a significant role in your baby's behaviour. If they are overfull or overly hungry, they might squirm or fuss at the sight of the breast or bottle. Overstimulation from activities prior to feeding can also contribute to restlessness.

Responsive feeding can help you to respond to your baby's cues and make feeding a comfortable experience for both:

• Watch closely for signs of hunger and offer feeds frequently if taking small amounts

• Watch for signs of fullness and being satiated, overfeeding can lead to discomfort

• Keep the environment calm when feeding

  
  

Teething Troubles

Teething can be a challenging time for babies, leading to increased discomfort and restlessness during feedings. The pain from emerging teeth can distract them from eating.

To alleviate teething discomfort before feeding:

• Offer teething rings that can soothe sore gums

• Use a chilled washcloth for your baby to chew on whilst supervised

• Holding your baby close during feeding can provide both comfort and reassurance

  
  

Lack of Interest or Boredom

As they grow, babies' preferences shift, and they may lose interest in feeding. Wriggly behaviour could indicate they would rather observe their surroundings than concentrate on feeding

To engage your baby during feedings:

• Interact vocally or physically by using gentle sounds or soft toys to maintain their interest.

• Change positions periodically if they seem bored to keep feeding enjoyable.

• Feeding scarves/necklaces can help your baby stay close when breastfeeding.

  
  

Navigating Feeding Challenges

Understanding your baby's squirmy behaviour during feeding is essential. By recognising the reasons for their restlessness, you can create a more enjoyable feeding experience. Remember that feeding is about more than just nutrition; it's an opportunity to bond and communicate with your baby.

Maintaining a calm environment and being responsive to their cues can make your feeding journey smoother. Parenting is about learning and adapting. Embrace the squirmy moments, as they are all part of your baby's growth story.

A cozy setup for a feeding session.

If challenges continue or you have concerns about your baby's feeding habits, reach out to a lactation consultant for personalised advice. Happy feeding!